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Timing

Creating the life we dream of is filled with visioning, forward movement, action. Sometimes, however, there is much value in pause, being with what is here now, in NOT reaching for what’s next. In the pauses, it can also be helpful to notice what doesn’t fit any longer and is ready to be released. Consider this short description of the trapeze artist taken from “The Yamas and Niyamas” by Deborah Adele:

Hanging in Mid-Air

Much like the moment when the breath is completely exhaled, the trapeze artist has a moment when they are suspended in mid-air. My understanding is that they have to let go of one bar and wait in mid-air for the next swinging bar to reach them. If they hold on to the current bar, or reach for the next bar, their timing will be off and they will fall. Instead, they must let go fully to be ready for the bar swinging towards them, trusting the timing of the swing and not their own effort to reach.

What bar have you held onto too long?
What bar are you reaching for prematurely?
Where are you gloriously suspended in mid-air?

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Intuition

“Intuition is like a small flash of light that is beginning to fade as soon as it appears.”

from The Yamas & Niyamas by Deborah Adele

You are intuitive. You have flashes of insight, moments of awareness, nudges from within. The Universe is providing clues outside of you as well which spark your inner knowing. How well do you listen? Are you willing to act on a “small flash of light” before it fades?

Today, begin to honor your intuition by moving just a little slower, or taking in a deep breath and noticing, or opening your eyes to what is around you in this moment.

What does your intuition have to offer now?

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Agree or Align? What works?

Relationships, especially those in family or work settings, are often challenged by disagreement. How do we move forward as a team, as a couple, when we disagree? How do we come to agreement? Do we have to? Too often, the process is filled with argument, giving in, giving up, running away, manipulation, frustration. Sound familiar?

If you are seeking agreement first, you may have it upside down. Often when we insist on agreement, we skip over truly understanding the others’ viewpoint. We also neglect to accept the other as a separate and unique individual with their own intentions, desires, ideas about the situation.

Consider a new way of thinking about and approaching the process. Try starting with alignment or acceptance. Continue reading “Agree or Align? What works?”

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Limiting Beliefs

Moving forward in life requires rewriting our personal scripts – pulling apart fact from fiction and assumption in the stories we tell. Moving forward requires changing the messages we give ourselves from those dis-empowering, limiting, even downright rude ones, to powerful statements that invite us to express our amazingly beautiful, powerful, unique and awesome selves!

Today, I invite you to create a list of “limiting beliefs” – statements you use actively or which merely swim in your conscious and subconscious minds – but which limit how you show up in the world. Everyone’s list will be different but here are a few examples:

  • I need to be an expert before I can …
  • I have nothing unique to offer others.
  • No one will want what I have to offer.
  • That’s a luxury I can’t afford.
  • I can’t move forward without …
  • I don’t know what to do; I need more tools.
  • I need the safety of a paycheck so I can’t start my own business.
  • I have brilliant ideas but no one really “gets” me.
  • I couldn’t possibly …

Go deep!

When you stop yourself from moving forward, what messages limit you?
What rewrite can you offer for each?

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Willingness

You have heard that the one constant in life is change. We navigate change when we get honest with ourselves and take action. Sometimes, however, we don’t take action. Sometimes we don’t get gut level honest.

Sometimes what’s needed is the precursor to both honesty and action: willingness.

Sometimes, when we’re really stuck, we need to be willing to be willing!

Where do you find unwillingness in you?
Where have self-will or stubbornness run amuck?
Where would willingness create the needed shift?