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The Night Sky

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Have you ever paused to be with the sky at sunset? When I pause for just a minute, what I notice most is how quickly it changes. Blink and I miss something! The same thing is true with a baby, yes? Turn around, let a week pass by, and that infant has visibly changed!

Hear this: the same is true for you and everyone you know. Each of us is as ever-changing as the night sky and the baby. The difference is, we don’t hold this truth in our awareness or feel its power. Take a moment. Breathe. Who you were yesterday, last week, last year, is so very different from you in this moment: your thoughts, the cells in your body, your emotions. Maybe the folks around you at work and home are the same folks as last year – maybe not. But you are different. They are different. So I ask:

Do you expect “same”?
Do you allow yourself to grow and change?
Do you allow others to grow and change?

If you believed that you and others are as ever-changing as the night sky:

What would be possible?
What would you see when you looked in the mirror?
How might your relationships expand?

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Bowling Alley Wisdom Part IV

In case you missed part III, you’ll find it here:

Bowling Alley Wisdom Part III: The Arrows

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Lesson #4: The Ball

The primary tool in bowling is the ball. You will need to select the right combination of

  • weight – not too heavy that you can’t throw it, not too light that it has no impact
  • finger hole configuration – does it match YOUR hand?

When the ball is “just right”, it is an extension of your arm, you release it smoothly and on target (remember the arrows?) and it carries just right energy, spin and direction to hit the pins and have wide reaching impact as pins knock down other pins.

In life:

What tools are you using to do the work?
Do you trust that the tools have power when well chosen
and released with intention?

Or do you choose a hammer when a love pat will do the job? Maybe your tool is a great idea but you refuse to let it go and allow others to “take it and run with it”.  Perhaps you are using tools, workshop outlines, meeting strategies, parenting techniques, that simply aren’t a match for who you are.  In this way, you are less effective and are actually hiding your light from the world.

What tools are ineffective?
What will you release and replace?
What if you don’t?

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Are you a YES or a NO?

Today’s message is simple. Are you approaching your life from YES? When opportunities arise, is your first impulse to say, “Of course!”?

Or, do you come from NO? “I couldn’t possibly…” or “I’d like to but …” or “I couldn’t. I’m not capable!”

Take a moment to bring to mind people you spend time with – friends, colleagues, family members. For each, just notice: Are they a YES or a NO person? Which energy do you prefer to be with? We cannot change someone else. But it is our responsibility to be the change we want to see in this world. So I ask you now:

Does your energy say YES?
What is the impact on others when you come from YES?
What is the impact on YOU when you come from YES?

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Perfectly Imperfect!

Have you ever suffered from “perfectionism”? The symptoms may include:

  • controlling every detail so “it” turns out “perfectly”
  • stressed, uptight, ever afraid of “failure”
  • limiting the activities you participate in because you can’t “do that one perfectly yet” and you might look foolish

Today’s secret is this: No one is perfect. You will NEVER be perfect. A goal of human perfection is doomed to fail. 

But celebrating ourselves on the journey of being our “perfectly imperfect human expressions” is expansive, joyful, freeing!

Where would a dose of imperfection free you?

 

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You’re Not Perfect …

“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing,
is giving up on being perfect
and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” Anna Quindlen

You are not perfect. I am not perfect. We never will be. We are, however, the only human being on this entire planet who has the best chance to be as close to perfect as possible at being ME.

How are you trying to be someone else’s idea of “perfect”?
What will set you apart when you allow it?
What makes you, YOU?