Tidbits of Wisdom to inspire your unique life journey – Jeanne Loehnis, Songs For Your Spirit, LLC
“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing,
is giving up on being perfect
and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” Anna Quindlen
You are not perfect. I am not perfect. We never will be. We are, however, the only human being on this entire planet who has the best chance to be as close to perfect as possible at being ME.
How are you trying to be someone else’s idea of “perfect”?
What will set you apart when you allow it?
What makes you, YOU?
Think about where you spend the energy of your life. What is so important to you that it gets your time and attention? My list includes a passion for the spiritual evolution of humanity, our expanding consciousness which is fairly invisible.
Does your list include the invisible?
Do you:
I am willing to bet that you do some or all of these and that others appreciate these aspects of you. My question for you is:
Do YOU honor this generous, loving, sometimes invisible you?
Do YOU really value YOU?
What if you did?
If you don’t know the answer to that last one or if your answer to the others is “no”, please take on this challenge:
Write a thank you note … to you!
Insisting on getting our needs met by a particular someone, as pointed out in part two:
has the potential to put undue strain on a relationship. What did you notice as you experimented with separating your need from “the one person on earth who you want to meet it”? Did you return to that important relationship “filled up, less needy, more available”? What was the impact?
What is possible from here?
For a few more thought provoking ideas around relationships, check out:
Of course there is a part one! Here you go:
Today’s focus is around getting our wants and needs met. Consider these two statements:
I need to talk about what just happened.
I need to talk about what just happened with Mary Jane.
Now feel into the expectation of the second statement. Perhaps you really do need to talk. But do you need to talk with “Mary Jane”? How often do we force others to meet our emotional needs? Perhaps even our want or need for activity:
I need/want to go for a walk.
I need/want to go for a walk with YOU.
The next time you find yourself with a need, notice if you are narrowing the possibility for getting the need met and placing expectations on another person. Then ask yourself:
What if I force “you” to meet my need?
What other options do I have?
What if I get my need met and return to “you” filled up?
Then choose.
How often do you find yourself saying or thinking, “I need a …” or “I want that…”? We all do it. What I’d like to think about today is the distinction between wanting and needing. Beyond the material, do I:
need time with a friend or want time with a friend?
need to know that or want to know that?
need acknowledgment or want acknowledgment?
Hear the difference? The next time you find yourself saying, “I need this …” which seems to imply that something bad will occur if you do not get it, stop. Dare to ask yourself:
Do I really want to believe this is a need?
If it is a want, consider the freedom in letting it go!