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Where is your focus?

Do you ever catch yourself passing judgment “at first glance” or “judging a book (or a person) by its cover”?

Old phrases, yes. Yet I bring them up to invite you into a new focus practice. Imagine moving through your days, activities, connections with others in this way:

  • Meet
  • Pause to close your eyes to the outer and breathe in to the inner
  • Stay and respond

What does this mean? It means that whatever the outer circumstance, the visual, the situation you are tempted to react to, you do not react. Rather, you pause and shift your focus deeper and respond from here.

Where is your focus only surface level?
How would you respond from a deeper focus?
What are you willing to practice today?

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How do you regard yourself?

Lately, I’ve invited folks into self-care, self-love, daring to put themselves first in service of the truth that you cannot give away what you do not possess. And I’ve been met with some disbelief, perhaps even disdain. The idea that we are to serve, to give, to do for others runs deep! And today, the word regard showed up in my writing:

Who do you hold in high regard?
What puts a person in that category for you?
Do you have high regard for someone who ignores their own well-being for the sake of others?

How about you? Do your actions tell people:

I value YOU and I do not value ME?
Do you hold yourself in high regard?
What if you did?

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HAVE-DO-BE or BE-DO-HAVE in relationship?

Often we desire to have “something” and do what it takes to get “it”. Once we have “it”, we be with it:

Have – Do – Be

Yesterday, it occurred to me how this may not work in relationships. I want to have a healthy, happy, joyful, loving relationship so I go looking to get it. Once I have it, I am happy in it.

Consider this shift:

Be – Do – Have

If I desire that healthy, happy, joyful, loving relationship then my first step is to be  the happy, joyful, loving person who does things that reflect that happy, joyful, loving person I am. From there, my partner in relationship, who has received happy, joyful, love can’t help but reciprocate at which point I have a happy, joyful, loving relationship, yes?

Over-simplified? Perhaps. But:

Where might you choose to BE first?
What do you notice when you do?

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Alphabet Guidance

This morning, I noticed one of my gremlins present. A haze of depression was trying to get me to believe that all was not well, something was very wrong, and I’d better figure it out and correct it!

And I chose not to go there.

Instead, I took a deep breath, embraced the message that one of my inner saboteur voices was active, and said, “Hello Depression. I hear you and I know that your message is not my deepest truth.”

Then, I proceeded to play a word game which I share with you now. From D for depression, I proceeded to find other truths:

D for Dancing
E for Energy
F for Flexibility and Friendship
G for Godliness

I worked my way up to O for my Open Mind and Heart and realized that my inner being had shifted and Depression was no longer in control.

What would Alphabet Guidance show you?

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How do you prepare yourself?

I noticed something today … and am sharing it from a place of full disclosure, albeit a bit uncomfortable. Before I meet with clients or women’s groups or find myself as a front of the room leader, I prepare. Preparations include meditation, grounding, clearing emotional clutter, opening my being to be with and to receive “you” fully.

When the activity ahead is something different like writing, preparing a workshop handout, organizing my notes … not directly engaging with people, I often skip the preparation and shift into human doing mode.

Why does it matter?

If everything is energy, then the handouts, writings, notes will have an energetic impact on the world. Imagine the impact they will have when they are created from

  • tired, stressed, bored
  • centered, energized, engaged

Which works do YOU want to use?
What energy will you create FROM next time?
Which version of creation will nourish you, the creator?