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Let Me Get Back To You On That!

Do you ever say YES to an opportunity without thinking and later wish you hadn’t? Has your YES habit landed you in resentment, too busy, frustration? Do you find that the energy you then bring to these activities is sour?

We could dig into WHY so many of us are “yes persons”. And often that includes things like a desire to be liked or loved or to look good. But not today. Today is for changing your response, one answer at a time.

Imagine taking back your personal power and being able to say YES when you mean YES and NO or “Perhaps another time” when that is your truth.

Ready?

The next time you are about to say YES without thinking, try this simple 4-step process:

Let me get back to you on that!

  1. PAUSE: Respond with “Let me get back to you on that by [date]”
  2. JOURNAL: What is true about this for me? Why do I want to do it? Why not? What is the impact of YES? What is the impact of NO? Is NOT THIS TIME but interested next time your truth?
  3. DECIDE: What is my decision?
  4. COMMUNICATE: Let the questioner know of your empowered YES or NO or LATER.

This process works when the questioner is a friend or family member wanting you to do something. It also works if the questioner is YOU wanting to skip exercise or eat unhealthfully or abandon yourself in some other way. Here you might “get back to yourself” in 5 or 10 minutes.

What will it be like to make self-honoring decisions?
What will it be like not to resent what you agree to?
What will it be like to keep commitments joyfully?

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How will you know when it’s time for your vision to grow?

The last post:

The Purpose of Vision …

ended with this question: How will you know when it’s time for your vision to grow? Note that vision can be the great big “life vision or purpose” and it can be a vision for what we want to experience in this relationship or the job or the upcoming holiday. And, just like the vision itself, the answer to the question is personal. No one can answer it but you.

That said, I think some of the warning signs for vision needs to grow are:

  • boredom
  • restlessness
  • anger
  • frustration
  • meaningless
  • passionless

If some aspect of life – or life itself – generally brings up some of the warning signs listed above, consider a new vision:

What do I vision as the perfect 10 here?
How will I hold this vision in my awareness?
What shift in my energy is needed to create it?

What is my next step?

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Stop talking about it!

It’s a risk. Or at least it feels like one. When I set an intention that involves changing how I show up in my life, changing how I act around other people, I find myself wanting to talk about it – first. My ego wants to let you know of my intention. Maybe I don’t want you to think ill of me. Maybe I want your permission. Regardless, what happens is that too much talk sometimes halts forward movement.

There is a time and a place for talk, for bouncing ideas ideas off of others.

And there is a time when quiet action, courage, gentleness and commitment is needed.

What have you been talking about too long?
Where is talk blocking action?

What risk must you take?

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Trust …

Do you ever have a vision, a dream, a desire and, once present, you want it … NOW?

I do.

Yet, the things which I desire at this point in my life are not things. They do not manifest overnight. They cannot be purchased in a store. Rather, I dream of new lifelong ways of being, deepening relationships. I dream of the impact of new ongoing habits like daily meditation.

Sometimes I struggle.

I struggle when I forget:

Hold the vision, take today’s step, and trust.

And that is guidance for today, and every today hereafter.

What is your vision?
What is today’s step?
What must you trust?

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Remember Your Vision

Sometimes, I wake up and my emotional well-being is missing. I forget who I am and what I’m about. I lose site of my big “V” vision.

Sometimes, I transfer control of my day to my emotional non-well-being. [Guess what happens?]

Sometimes, I don’t. Lately I’ve been practicing:

  1. notice my emotional state
  2. remember my Vision, Purpose, Intention
  3. let my emotions flow if needed, clear my emotional space
  4. return to my Vision and discern what today’s “next step” is

Then I live into my Vision by taking today’s step. I ask you:

What “V”ision are you moving toward now?
What emotion will you take out of the driver’s seat?