A hint for the holidays …

For many of us, the holiday season is here – full steam ahead! Perhaps some of the parties are in the past but likely, time with family is yet ahead. And for some, family presents a special challenge: we care about these folks for they are a forever part of our lives if at all possible! Yet, while we may have grown up under the same roof, we have possibly grown apart as adults. Sometimes, connection has disappeared and been replaced by difficult personalities, different values, tension.

This season, I invite you – whatever your personal situation – to consider this:

Love is the answer.

This holiday, try a visioning practice when you gather with others. Continue reading “A hint for the holidays …”

Seek first to understand …

It is Thanksgiving Day 2016. We in the US are moving through a very challenging time following the US presidential election. As I continue my own journey of discernment around how I am to be, to serve, and to respond, I am reminded of two powerful pieces of music. I offer them to you today.

Adapted from the words of St. Frances of Assisi by Sebastian Temple, Make Me  a Channel of Your Peace 

And, from India Arie, Better People

May you and your family enjoy a day of blessings, gratitude, connection and understanding.

Gratitude for what will be

Gratitude is a powerful force. Full appreciation for what has been leaves one in a state of awe.

Imagine for a moment, gratitude for what will be. Vision some aspect of your life purpose fully realized. Give your vision depth and color, energy and strength, life and impact. Be with your vision. Notice all the qualities in you and your life which are both in your vision and already present. Express your gratitude for the ways in which this vision is manifesting now. Express also gratitude for the intention, desire, and trust that you bring to this vision fully realized.

What are you grateful for today?

The List

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Did you grow up with the “to-do list”? Every morning in the summer, Mom would go to work. But before she left home, she left “the list” for us kids to do before she returned. Oh how I hated that list and most of what appeared on it:

Weed the beans
Dust the house
etc.

Yet, before Mom returned, we needed it to be a “to-done” list – or else!

Well, I realize today (some 40 years later!) that I learned my lessons well and “the list” has become a key piece of my organizational skills and my ability to get stuff accomplished. (Thanks, Mom!) It has also become, however, a source of overwhelm and fear despite the tricks I’ve learned to manage it.

As I look down on those childhood years, I see that Mom managed THE LIST, you know – the BIG list – the one that was never ending and lived in her head. I only saw the list, the segment that formed the to-do’s of today and which Mom believed was manageable.

Today, as an entrepreneur, I now manage THE LIST, and I manage the list. On top of that, I need to manage “me” and discern what I need for balance and well-being. Play? Rest? Work? Creativity? Meditation? I’m pretty good at this discernment day-to-day and can create the list that serves my balance most days. It is THE LIST which wreaks havoc with me.

How about you? Do you have a never-ending set of home remodeling projects? Is your business in that start-up phase where every time you turn around there are three new tasks for every one completed? Are you a creative like me and ideas for “what’s next?” come faster than a locomotive and creative time disappears at that pace as well?

Here are some things I know that I would like to put into more regular practice:

  • Celebrate creative ideas! What if I had none to choose from?
  • There will always be more options, more ways to spend time, energy, and money than I could ever follow through on.

In other words, expect more and more and more ideas! Treasure the energy in you that sees possibility. Know deep inside that you never want this list to become a “to-done” list. (Jeanne, are you listening to yourself? Are you learning here?)

Consider also these thoughts related to your LIST:

  • Today’s ideas might be great – and they might be the spark that ignites an even better idea!
  • Today’s ideas might not be great. Does this one even go on the list?
  • A great idea today might have come at the wrong time and need to sit on the back burner awhile.
  • A great idea not executed today might need to be released tomorrow because it simply isn’t great anymore.

Take a look at your LIST. Consider:

What have you already completed without realizing it?
Celebrate!

What ideas naturally group themselves together into larger themes?
What no longer fits at all in the grand scheme?

Let it go!

What still feels exciting, creative or necessary,
but now is not the time?
Can you guesstimate a time frame?
Express gratitude for this future work.
Release any pressure you feel to get it done now!

Finally, return to today and the list that serves you and THE LIST.

 

Do great things … with heart

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“Don’t worry about doing great things…
just do little things with great heart.” Mother Teresa

I was reminded this week of how much fear and resistance I experienced during a leadership training program in 2010. There I was in the midst of learning about leadership, imagining our group creating “big things” in our world, and scared out of my mind when I thought about leading.

Since then, the fear of leading has shrunk tremendously.  And my definition of leadership has shifted.

Today I know that we are all meant to be leaders. And leadership isn’t about “doing great things” though some leaders do that. Leadership is about taking the action that is needed in the moment, seeing what needs doing and making it happen. Such actions might be small – like listening to a friend who is suffering. Sometimes they are bigger – like taking responsibility to organize the community fundraiser. Either one of these has the potential for great impact – especially when done with great heart. When we lead and act from heart, from passion, from a deep connection both to the purpose we feel inside and to the world in which we live, we bring much needed love and compassion into this world. We do great things.

What need in the world around you have you been neglecting?
What do you see that needs your heart-full touch?
What action is yours to take?

What will you do today with great heart?