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HAVE-DO-BE or BE-DO-HAVE in relationship?

Often we desire to have “something” and do what it takes to get “it”. Once we have “it”, we be with it:

Have – Do – Be

Yesterday, it occurred to me how this may not work in relationships. I want to have a healthy, happy, joyful, loving relationship so I go looking to get it. Once I have it, I am happy in it.

Consider this shift:

Be – Do – Have

If I desire that healthy, happy, joyful, loving relationship then my first step is to be  the happy, joyful, loving person who does things that reflect that happy, joyful, loving person I am. From there, my partner in relationship, who has received happy, joyful, love can’t help but reciprocate at which point I have a happy, joyful, loving relationship, yes?

Over-simplified? Perhaps. But:

Where might you choose to BE first?
What do you notice when you do?

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Simplicity

“If thee needs anything and cannot find it, just come to me
and I’ll tell thee how to get along without it.” Etta May (Quaker)

How much time and energy goes to:

  • finding what we can’t live without
  • insisting on the”only” way even when it’s not working
  • acquiring the next thing that is a must have

What possibilities would open up if we greeted every block, every challenge, with simplicity? Today, try on:

What is the simple solution?
What can I let go of now?

What will I find in “less”?

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The Paradigm Shift

Sometimes, even “new software” isn’t the answer. Sometimes the shift that Life is asking us to make is as drastic as shifting from PC to Mac (yes, this would be drastic for me!) or:

  • leaving the typewriter behind to use the computer
  • dropping your land line and using only cell phones
  • the Pony Express to the U.S.P.S to e-mail

Or maybe the shift is from intelligence and reason to intuition as your primary guidance system. The paradigm shift can be scary, uncomfortable or painful. Its potential impact on other aspects of the world around us – enormous. Yet, sometimes refusing to take the leap of faith is even more painful or destructive.

Where is Life asking you to leap?
What can you vision on the other side?

Let the vision be your courage! Enlist your support team and jump!

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Time For New Software

Then there are those times when the old program has outlived its usefulness and it’s time for something new. Perhaps you were once a Word Perfect user who is now fully invested in Microsoft Word. (Yes, I know some of you spent decades releasing the typewriter for the computer!)

Take a look now at your life – thoughts, activities, relationships.

What thought patterns are not congruent with who you are now?
What activities no longer serve you?
What relationships, formed by a different you, are perhaps detrimental?

 Where is new software needed?

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Traffic Circles

Traffic circles are popping up everywhere. Where we once:

  • came to a full stop at a red light and waited for the light to tell us when to begin again
  • sailed right on through the green light
  • stopped at the sign and used caution and etiquette to know when to proceed

we now must slow down, look left, glance right, maybe stop, ultimately flow into the traffic pattern. Every driver must take responsibility for their part in the circular flow. What about life?

Where are you waiting at a red light?
Sailing through a green one?
Stopped at the sign and following the rules?
What is the impact of your traveling pattern?

What needs the circle approach?