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One last thought …

Since many of us have a habit of over committing, of saying Yes when we want to say No, of responding from “should” rather than “truth” … I ask you to think about those “Yes” responses that are accompanied energetically by “No”. What happens when you participate, help, serve, give of your time and all the while you think:

“I don’t want to be here.
I don’t have time for this.
Can’t this be over already?
I can’t wait for this to end!”

Yes, we’ve all done it. And, we’ve all been on the receiving end of someone else being physically present with us but emotionally absent. It doesn’t feel good. Take some time to scan your life’s activities, the ways you invest your energy. Where are you a Yes physically, but a No energetically?

What is this costing you?
What is your impact on the “other”?
What options do you have?
Which are you willing to take?

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What about those “No’s”?

Just as there is powerful energy in “Yes”, there is also energy in “No”. Try these on:

  • “Well, ah …, hmm. No.”
  • “No, but …”
  • “No, I couldn’t do that – it scares me.”
  • “I so wish I could, but no.”
  • “No, not now.”
  • “No way! How dare you?”
  • “Absolutely not. That would never work for me.”
  • “Thank you for asking. No.”
  • “No.”

Practice again with those “No’s”. Can you feel the energy in each? The next time you make a choice and the answer is no, consider which energy will serve you and honor the “other”:

Which “No” leaves you drained?
Indebted?
 Guilt-ridden?
What “No” is empowering and freeing?

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What is the energy in your “Yes”?

How many ways can you say “Yes” when asked to do something? Consider:

  • “Yes, I have no choice.”
  • “Yes, but …”
  • “Well… yes.”
  • “Yes.”
  • “Yes, I would like to.”
  • “Yes, absolutely!”
  • “Yes! I am so excited to be part of it!”

Now, imagine the energy behind and with each of those yeses. Try saying each one from that energy. Try letting the energy speak as the only word you use is “Yes”. Yes it is possible! The energy behind our words and our actions is real and powerful. Acting from a powerful “Yes!” is a gift to the giver and to the receiver. Acting from anything less has the potential to bring poison to our actions.

The next time you are asked to participate in something, to help, to choose, listen for the energy in your response. Then decide if you really are a “Yes” … or if perhaps this time you are a “No.”

What energy do you want to act from?

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You Were Born Ready!

You Were Born Ready

Do you believe it: you were born ready for anything? Imagine how much you have learned in your lifetime! With respect to navigating life on this planet Earth, you came into this world knowing very little. You could cry and breathe, sleep and nurse. Your body was a phenomenal machine able to process nourishment and reproduce at the cellular level. Beyond that, you learned how to talk and eat and behave. You learned how to express yourself and do math and play. You learned how to expand into more – and you learned how to shut yourself down. You learned how to believe in possibility and how to limit your options.

What if you believed you were born ready for anything — and — those things that you haven’t yet explored in this lifetime you are still ready for?

What would you attempt if you believed you could succeed?

(*) Check out more questions hiding behind the collage at https://www.songsforyourspirit.com/LifeCoachPromptsYouWereBornReady.php

 

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What are you aware of now?

Over the years, I have been a strong proponent of journaling, of taking time to evaluate the personal, inner landscape to notice and resolve conflict, emotional blocks, leftovers. When this long pause is needed – go for it! Today I’d like to suggest adding a practice of real-time awareness. How present are you in your day-to-day, moment-by-moment experience? If, for example, you often find yourself:

  • saying yes when you mean no
  • making commitments you later wish you hadn’t
  • bored or with mind wandering
  • desperately needing that journaling time to come back to yourself

maybe it’s time to “return to this moment” and “this one” and “this one” and live it fully.

What are you aware of now?