Tidbits of Wisdom to inspire your unique life journey – Jeanne Loehnis, Songs For Your Spirit, LLC
Bring to mind a situation, relationship, belief that both challenges you and that you are ready to experience shift around.
Got it? Now:
Do you ever say YES to an opportunity without thinking and later wish you hadn’t? Has your YES habit landed you in resentment, too busy, frustration? Do you find that the energy you then bring to these activities is sour?
We could dig into WHY so many of us are “yes persons”. And often that includes things like a desire to be liked or loved or to look good. But not today. Today is for changing your response, one answer at a time.
Imagine taking back your personal power and being able to say YES when you mean YES and NO or “Perhaps another time” when that is your truth.
Ready?
The next time you are about to say YES without thinking, try this simple 4-step process:
Let me get back to you on that!
This process works when the questioner is a friend or family member wanting you to do something. It also works if the questioner is YOU wanting to skip exercise or eat unhealthfully or abandon yourself in some other way. Here you might “get back to yourself” in 5 or 10 minutes.
What will it be like to make self-honoring decisions?
What will it be like not to resent what you agree to?
What will it be like to keep commitments joyfully?
Bring to mind a situation, relationship, belief that both challenges you and that you are ready to experience shift around.
Got it? Now:
Okay, I woke up in a funk. Emotions were heavy in my heart space. I felt like I was on the slippery slope down towards depression.
Does this ever happen to you?
Some days, I go down the slope. Sometimes, I try to figure out what negative thing is causing the heaviness. Today, I tried something different. I decided to take the K out of my funk:
FUNK minus K (a.k.a. “K”illjoy) equals FUN!
And it worked! As soon as I refused to listen to the voice of killjoy, I began to hear what it is that delights my spirit, that brings a smile to my face, what it is that I consider fun.
The next time you find yourself in a funk, try removing Mr. Killjoy and ask:
What is fun to me?
(even if no one else thinks it’s fun!)
Who might enjoy that kind of fun with me?
(ask them!)
When can I schedule a dose of that fun?
(make it happen!)
The last post:
ended with this question: How will you know when it’s time for your vision to grow? Note that vision can be the great big “life vision or purpose” and it can be a vision for what we want to experience in this relationship or the job or the upcoming holiday. And, just like the vision itself, the answer to the question is personal. No one can answer it but you.
That said, I think some of the warning signs for vision needs to grow are:
If some aspect of life – or life itself – generally brings up some of the warning signs listed above, consider a new vision:
What do I vision as the perfect 10 here?
How will I hold this vision in my awareness?
What shift in my energy is needed to create it?
What is my next step?