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How do you limit yourself with either/or?

Think about it. How often do you fixate on “the way” or “the right choice”? When you know like this, do you notice that you can quickly list all the reasons why “this” is right and “that” is wrong? This way of thinking can drive a wedge between two people in relationship, each of whom thinks they are right and other is wrong. In business this can show up, for example, in one group focusing solely on quality, regardless of price, and the other insisting on cost control.

How do we move beyond these stuck points?

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Flexibility

Flexibility, bending and stretching without breaking, is a valuable asset. In order to create the changes we desire in life, we must try new things, step outside our comfort zone, reach for something different. Imagine the rubber band. If not stretched enough, it isn’t very useful. If left unused, never stretched, it hardens and loses its “stretchability”. If we stretch it too far, it snaps. Somewhere in the middle, the stretching gives the rubber band its value.

What about you? In what areas of life have you flexed to the breaking point? In what areas are you afraid to stretch? Where have you become inflexible and rigid, hardened and ready to crumble?

What shift in flexibility is called for?

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Be True to YOU!

When was the last time you paused to wonder:

Who am I?
What really matters to ME?
Am I being true to myself?

Some of you may be thinking, “How selfish!” There is too much good work to do in this life to worry about what matters to me. There are so many less fortunate than me and my job is to give what they need.

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Amp it up – really!

What is alive inside of you right now? Stop to notice. Breathe in deeply. Is it freedom or stuck? Fear or love? Anxiety? Worry?

If what you notice is “positive”, give yourself a gift and “amp it up”! Fully feel the freedom or the love, the joy or the satisfaction.

If what you notice is “negative”, give yourself a gift and “amp it up”! WHAT???!!!!!! Yes, take time out, step outside of your activities, and turn up the volume. Let your being fully experience the depth of the discomfort, the depth of stuck for fear, anxiety or worry. Then ask:

What if nothing changes?
What is impossible from here?
What is possible?
What shift am I willing to make?

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Then what …

You are facing an obstacle, a situation. Your mind has jumped into the whirlwind of confusion and perhaps all the way to stuck and unmoving. Worst of all, you’ve got fear and it has taken over. Consider this tool. It might not even be new to you. But in case you haven’t tried it in awhile, here goes!  Ask yourself:

What’s the worst that can possibly happen?
If it happens, then what?
After that, what?
What next?

Now, give yourself the gift of this alternative:
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