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What Am I To Learn?

Ever find yourself in a situation that doesn’t match your expectations or desires? Maybe it’s a new job or boss that is nothing like you’d anticipated. Maybe the day ahead is full of responsibility and you woke up sick and tired. What is your default behavior at times like this? Complain, quit, get ugly? Trudge on, barrel through and abuse yourself?

Consider one more option: look for the lesson. None of us have done this life in this body before. Every day is new and different from yesterday. In every situation, every conversation, every task, consider letting go of all preconceived ideas and wondering:

What am I to learn?

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You Already Know

The truth is, you already know. “Know what?”, you ask. You know a lot more about what you want, what works, what feels empowering – and not, what you need “now” than you are willing to claim. Why is that? What stops you from stating your desires clearly?

Consider this: Just because “it” is what you want or need or works best for you … doesn’t mean you will insist on receiving it. Sometimes, just getting clear inside about what would most honor “me” is enough.
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What’s YOUR Style?

What makes you YOU? I know you’ve heard the question before. But please take a moment to be with it. When you walk into a room, what do you bring? When you are a friend, what is your gift? When you do the same thing that so many others on the planet do, what makes your doing different?

You have a style, a flair. You have an energy, qualities combined in a way that only you can manifest. Do you?

 What’s YOUR style?

BE YOU NOW!

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Sky Watching

Sky watching … not cloud watching. Take a moment to imagine – or go outside – and soak up the entirety of the sky: wide blue expanse in which the sun, moon, planets and stars, the ever changing clouds, the snow, rain, lightning and thunder, rainbows, exist. The sky holds all of it – allowing it to be and flow, come and go, shift and change, speak loudly or not at all.

What if you could experience life as sky?
What is your ever-present sun?
What clouds could you allow more easefully?
What rainbows would you notice and appreciate more deeply?
What does it feel like to be blue sky?

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White Knuckle Abstinence

Ideally, we move forward and take positive steps toward our goals by visioning the future and excitedly doing what it takes to get there. Unfortunately, that doesn’t always work. Sometimes we let life – or fear – get in the way even when the vision is compelling and glorious!

In 12-Step recovery, the phrase, “white knuckle abstinence” means doing whatever it takes to steer clear of our substance of choice whether that be alcohol, drugs, overeating, under eating, or gambling. This can be unpleasant and hard – yet possible with the help of supportive sponsors, meetings, inspirational readings.

What does “white knuckle abstinence” look like around vision work, around living a fulfilling, purposeful, passionate life? I think it is another tool in our tool box. Perhaps it’s the sledge hammer which may not do the prettiest work but does do something! Maybe it’s the hand saw when we really need a chain saw yet again, it moves us forward. Maybe it is an accountability partner. Maybe it’s getting up 15 minutes early each day to exercise – kicking and screaming all the way – but doing it.

If you’ve been stuck in a rut or backsliding on your dreams, ask yourself:

What would a dose of White Knuckle Abstinence look like?